Hello my friends at www.easilyfriends.com guess what some kind person invited me to use the preview of Google Wave and after accepting and a few false starts I have managed to make it work and it is rather good.

No it isn’t as intuitive or as clever as www.easilyfriends.com and you won’t be able to find a partner using Google Wave but I have a feeling that it is the coming “thing!“

So look at for me Abigail from www.easilyfriends.com on Google Wave, but send your questions and problems to me at EmailAbigail© because that is a little more private.

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Giving one-to-one advice or mentioning advice that I might have given someone is something I rarely do in my blog because I want my blog to be general and that way enable as many people as possible to benefit from what I publish here.

However this morning I was minding my own business sightseeing on a big red London bus, I am in London for a few days it is nice, but it is so crowded and London is one of the dirtiest, most polluted places I have ever visited oh and the standard of service is pretty poor too, frankly I wouldn’t recommend London as a place to visit.

Still I didn’t come here to moan, I came here to tell you about something that happened this morning on the aforementioned bus which was both flattering and in a way rather sad.

A young man got on the bus at Oxford Street close to a Pedestrian Crossing that seems to be designed to give buses and taxis more than one chance to people crossing Oxford Street, it looked very dangerous indeed. The young man was in his mid twenties I guess and as he passed by me he smiled!

That was nice I thought to myself especially as I was feeling as though I was in the middle of a city where no one smiles ever, a cue that I presume comes from the politicians of the land who all seem to be talking seriously and never smile.

After a while, we had just been whisked rather rapidly around Trafalgar Square I recall, gee buses travel fast in London, the young man approached me and asked me if my name was Abigail and I nodded, he asked if he could sit next to be and then began to tell me about his girlfriend.

I was so disturbed to hear his story that I ended up getting off the bus in a place called Brixton, mmh! is all I will say about that place, I thought the middle of London was dirty until I tried to walk through the trash lined Brixton High Street.

Obviously I can’t mention specifics but the young man said that he and his girlfriend had been living together for a number of years and recently within the last six to eight months and for no apparent reason she had been going out and staying out sometimes over night.

The young man said that he loved his girlfriend and had tried to have one of those chats that we all attempt, the “what is wrong! Is it me!” type of conversation, but his girlfriend had erupted saying that he was ruining her life and all she wanted was freedom and he didn’t give her any.

Well I told him what I thought I would do in that situation, which is give her all of the freedom she is demanding and move out immediately, I don’t know if he will but it would be best.

Please everyone remember that relationships are about sharing, they are not meant to be one sided and no partner is supposed to take advantage of the other, if they do they probably always will and the best thing to do in those circumstances is to leave and find someone who wants to be with you and wants to share a life with you, you deserve to be happy as well as your partner no matter whether you are a man or a woman.

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In a world that recently has shown itself to be a place full of corruption, greed and stupidity it is important to remember that if you want to build a stable long term relationship with a partner you should do the opposite of American, Arab and European bankers and businessmen and be generous and honest.

Just look where greed, stupidity and corruption have got them? Nowhere yet like the children from a bad marriage it is us the poor people in the street that suffer because we bear the cost for the actions of the greedy idiots.

So it you want to have a relationship that lasts first try to be generous and kind yourself and then find someone who thinks the same. Both of you may not ever be the richest people in the world but you will be among a very select few who are the happiest.

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These days it is sad to say that there are a lot of oddballs about and quite frankly that makes dating whether you are a, girl meeting a girl, a girl meeting a boy or indeed a boy meeting a boy something of a risk.

Happily there are a number of things that you can do to ensure that the date you are going to have is a safe one, even if it turns out to be less than an enjoyable one.

The first thing to do is a bit of homework especially if the date you are going to have is really a blind one and no one you know has introduced you to the person you are going to meet.

The sort of homework to do is to use Google to search for the person name, then check out FB and MySpace to see if the person is online and if they are you can get a good sneak peek.

If the date comes through someone you know from your family, mates or friends work then ask questions and get the information that you need that way. Remember it really isn’t bad to ask these questions these days, so don’t feel like it is.

When you go on the date you can either double up with friends or go somewhere very public and of course don’t travel too far to the date.

As a courtesy make sure that you have your date’s phone number so that you can call if it looks as though you are going to be held up. You must know what it is like if you are standing somewhere waiting for a date to arrive and they don’t.

You feel like a complete tool and after a while you begin to start to wonder how long you should wait before you give up and you wait a little longer getting ever more uncomfortable, so don’t let that happen it isn’t fair to your date and of course will spoil the evening.

To make sure that you are safe on your date tell someone where you are going and what time you will be back and make sure that you have sufficient cash on you for any emergency.

When you are on the date, turn your phone to vibrate and try not to use it or send texts, you are there to find out more about the person you are meeting so do just that, chat about what you like to do and of course listen to what the other person has to say as well.

Remember that if you feel a little nervous then it is likely that your date does and so that is actually something that you both can talk about because it is common ground and common ground is good for couples, not of course that one date is anything more than just a date so don’t make plans of any kind on the night for a second date, there is always plenty of time to do that afterwards.

Most important of all is to make sure that you know how to get home, if you haven’t driven to the date then make sure you know what public transport is available and aim to catch it so that you don’t have to wait outside at night especially if you live in a major city.

Lastly have fun, that is why you agreed to go out in the first place and if at any time you feel uncomfortable then leave it is a free country you know and it is better to be called something nasty behind your back than to be in any form of danger.

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It is good to see that some Speed Dating companies care about their clients more than others, though in my opinion they only care about their clients cash, like the people at Speed Dating Events and I would like to thank them for their comment on my blog about Speed Dating which describes why I think that Speed dating is a terrible way to find a partner. The comment, if you want to read it, appeared on the www.easilyfriends.com website.

However in spite of their comment, I haven’t change my mind and my point remains and that is because not all Speed Dating is either well organised or well thought out.

I still maintain that you are never going to find someone to develop a long term relationship with when you are hustled from one quick chat to the next, even in a nice venue with careful professional staff in attendance.

And just quickly on the subject of venues Speed Dating event companies tend to use smelly, dirty and outdated public houses to arrange their ‘quicky’ events! Am I the only person in the world who hates pubs because they are not nice places? Thank goodness no, because I read everyday of another town or village pub closing.

The best you can hope for from a Speed Dating event is to fill your Filofax with cards and numbers from people you know you won’t call because you won’t remember who they were and of course they won’t ring for the same reason.

Really, the only thing you can expect to get out of a speed dating event is to get back into the swing of talking to people in a social situation, frankly I would choose the bus, or better still if you want an evening out go to the theatre or the ballet and in the interval find people to chat to.

As I have said before, if you talk to people even if they are in a relationship it is very likely that they will have friends like you who are looking for a relationship, but of course, first of all they are looking for a date and importantly so are you!

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Of all the most unsavoury things to cross the Atlantic recently, I have to say that I think speed dating was one of the worst!

It is actually ‘up there’ with Adam Lambert and of course Jay Sean and indeed anyone whose name is anything to do with ‘cents’ no matter what division of a dollar they happen to be and of course anyone who wears that dreadful stuff ‘bling.’

As far as I was concerned and frankly speed dating ‘concerned’ me; speed dating was insulting, petty and really rather pathetic.

Oh the concept sounded all rather fine as I am afraid mere ‘concepts’ always do, but finding a partner and beginning a relationship is nothing to do with several five minute chats in the early evening at a bar that is hired by the hour on slow days.

No dating and finding a partner is a slow process that takes patience, time and most of all dedication plus commitment.

Speed dating was all very well and good as a way of massaging the egos of people who think that they are busy. Sad people who spend a lot of time cutting down and neatly packaging the things they do in their, not very normal, lives so that at the end of the evening they have plenty of time to go home and think about how alone they are.

I am sorry but no one on the planet is too busy for a relationship or beginning to build one and if you can name anyone and then prove that they are; I will happily print the information here on my very precious and popular blog and give you the credit you both deserve for being very rare indeed.

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It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.

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There is no need to be alone these days honestly. Believe it or not even today there are so many ways to find someone who could become your partner. One of the very best ways to find a special someone is to talk to people you see everyday.

Sadly our society has painted us into a corner because we are worried about ‘strangers’ and so we walk along the street with our heads down, sit on public transport avoiding eye contact with our fellow passengers and keep ourselves very much to ourselves and that I am afraid is a recipe for loneliness.

But that is daft because if we have a daily routine and that is probably 90% of us we encounter people everyday, nice people who are probably lonely as well and as painted into their corners as we are.

So surely it is really silly to sit at home alone when in your street let alone your town there are probably dozens of people doing the self same thing.

Tomorrow when you are walking down the street or you are on the bus or you are wherever your daily routine takes you and you see someone you have seen before smile at them, you’ll probably get a smile back.

Then the next day when you see them again do the same, after a week the person you are smiling at will probably be looking out for you so that they can smile back at you when you smile at them and that is because we humans are social animals and we enjoy contact with other members of or species.

The next step is to say hello, and soon after that maybe you will be stopping for a chat, this sort of sociable behaviour can be directed to both members of the opposite sex and to members of your own sex too and that is because you are just being socialble.

With men it is more likely to start chatting if they are at a football game or in a bar but the same logic of just chatting applies.

By chatting to members of the opposite sex you are increasing your chances of striking up a friendship or relationship and by talking to a members of the same sex you are simply widening your group of contacts.

Isn’t it true that almost all of us know someone who is on their own and it is likely that you will be introduced to them at some time down the line or be introducing someone to a friend of the person you now know who is alone.

The simple truth is that unless you talk to people and interact with them you will become more and more isolated and when you feel isolated and alone you don’t feel like talking to anyone and so you are caught in a cycle of unhappiness.

Don’t you agree that the price of getting rid of your unhappiness is worth a smile and then a hello? I do, but then I do talk to a lot of people when I am out.

After the first hello you can chat about anything, from the weather to the price of Sugar it doesn’t matter, the person you smiled at will know that you aren’t a threat and vice versa and at some stage they will feel comfortable enough to suggest a coffee or something.

So smile at someone tomorrow just for me! Because there is no reason for any of us to be alone and victims of the society we live in today and stay painted into a corner.

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A first date after a while can be ‘interesting’ for all of the wrong reasons and not just because you are out of practice. When you get home you start to wonder whether you both had fun and of course whether either of you want to repeat the fun and have a second date.

So what should you do next? Well if you are a woman you are supposed to ruled by a convention that suggests that you wait to see if ‘he’ calls and if you are a man you are supposed to call if you had fun and want to see your new friend again.

That does seem to leave a lot to chance doesn’t it? So what you do next assuming that you want to see the other party again should be ruled by you not convention. Though of course what you do next should be governed by how well the date went.

If you have a nice time then there is no reason not to have another date is there? If on the other hand things didn’t go so well of course you should continue looking for what you want.

If you have a great time then call the other person and let them know and suggest another date, you will soon discover if they feel the same way about the date and are prepared to have another.

When you call, and this applies to both men and women be chatty, and make sure you say that you had a good time as quickly as possible, oddly enough few people seem to know that compliments work as well on men as women.

And tell them what you are doing now, and if you really liked him or her tell them that you are getting ready for bed and thinking of ‘them’ that works rather nicely because it is an innocent comment but just as a very slight edge.

Keep the conversation short though because you don’t want to run out of things to talk about on the second date, on the third of course you can mention the telephone conversation after the first date which is nice because it shows that you are developing some personal history that only you two share and that is the best way to start a dating regularly and building something that eventually will come to be a relationship and all from a little telephone call.

Here at www.easilyfriends.com we try to make finding a partner as easy as possible and of course ALL of our services are FREE and always will be free but pleased do take care when dating someone new for the first time.

Meet in them in a public place and leave them in a public place. Make sure that you tell someone where you are going and when you expect to return and if you are going to be late then call them and let them know.

Dating is fun and dating safely means that you will have fun safely.

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Here are three words to think about today when you are looking for Mr., Ms. or Mrs. right.

If you use those three rather simple words then you will find happiness. You know a friend of mine spent nearly 20 years looking for the right partner, in the end he found her but it took a while and of course he was patient.

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