Are you single and have been for a while now? If so it is entirely possible that you have started to wonder if you will every get a partner and form a long lasting relationship and when that happens you start to think that maybe dating is not the answer and should you even bother?

Well take heart and think about this for a moment. If there was some sort of supreme being and he or more likely she made all of the decisions and with the benefit of his or her amazing intelligence pair us all up based on how well we would get on, what colour our eyes were, what we liked and so on would that work or would he or she make mistakes, some of the cleverest things in the world like say for instance computers make mistakes just take the Lotto computer it must make mistakes because it has never chosen me.

Without dating and happily dating websites such as www.easilyfriends.com we wouldn’t have the fun of finding the person we rather like the look of, chatting to them, going on a date and slowly over a period of time discovering that we really like this person, surely dating is much better than being paired off just because we appear to be compatible.

Isn’t it a good job that we are human because sometimes the people we end up with are nothing like the stereotypes that computers suggest, which of course is why dating sites like www.easilyfriends.com are so much better than dating agencies who favour computer dating, computers should only date themselves shouldn’t they?

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If you are using a dating website such as the www.easilyfriends.com, then it is a really good idea to spruce up and spring clean your profile.

The people at the www.easilyfriends.com have discovered, in some research they have been doing recently, that if you want to improve your chances of finding a partner on their site all you have to do is just add a new photograph and that will increase your chance of being contacted by 62%.

So if you have a moment then you can spend it wisely, if that is, you are looking for a new partner.

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It is good to see that some Speed Dating companies care about their clients more than others, though in my opinion they only care about their clients cash, like the people at Speed Dating Events and I would like to thank them for their comment on my blog about Speed Dating which describes why I think that Speed dating is a terrible way to find a partner. The comment, if you want to read it, appeared on the www.easilyfriends.com website.

However in spite of their comment, I haven’t change my mind and my point remains and that is because not all Speed Dating is either well organised or well thought out.

I still maintain that you are never going to find someone to develop a long term relationship with when you are hustled from one quick chat to the next, even in a nice venue with careful professional staff in attendance.

And just quickly on the subject of venues Speed Dating event companies tend to use smelly, dirty and outdated public houses to arrange their ‘quicky’ events! Am I the only person in the world who hates pubs because they are not nice places? Thank goodness no, because I read everyday of another town or village pub closing.

The best you can hope for from a Speed Dating event is to fill your Filofax with cards and numbers from people you know you won’t call because you won’t remember who they were and of course they won’t ring for the same reason.

Really, the only thing you can expect to get out of a speed dating event is to get back into the swing of talking to people in a social situation, frankly I would choose the bus, or better still if you want an evening out go to the theatre or the ballet and in the interval find people to chat to.

As I have said before, if you talk to people even if they are in a relationship it is very likely that they will have friends like you who are looking for a relationship, but of course, first of all they are looking for a date and importantly so are you!

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It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.

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There is no need to be alone these days honestly. Believe it or not even today there are so many ways to find someone who could become your partner. One of the very best ways to find a special someone is to talk to people you see everyday.

Sadly our society has painted us into a corner because we are worried about ‘strangers’ and so we walk along the street with our heads down, sit on public transport avoiding eye contact with our fellow passengers and keep ourselves very much to ourselves and that I am afraid is a recipe for loneliness.

But that is daft because if we have a daily routine and that is probably 90% of us we encounter people everyday, nice people who are probably lonely as well and as painted into their corners as we are.

So surely it is really silly to sit at home alone when in your street let alone your town there are probably dozens of people doing the self same thing.

Tomorrow when you are walking down the street or you are on the bus or you are wherever your daily routine takes you and you see someone you have seen before smile at them, you’ll probably get a smile back.

Then the next day when you see them again do the same, after a week the person you are smiling at will probably be looking out for you so that they can smile back at you when you smile at them and that is because we humans are social animals and we enjoy contact with other members of or species.

The next step is to say hello, and soon after that maybe you will be stopping for a chat, this sort of sociable behaviour can be directed to both members of the opposite sex and to members of your own sex too and that is because you are just being socialble.

With men it is more likely to start chatting if they are at a football game or in a bar but the same logic of just chatting applies.

By chatting to members of the opposite sex you are increasing your chances of striking up a friendship or relationship and by talking to a members of the same sex you are simply widening your group of contacts.

Isn’t it true that almost all of us know someone who is on their own and it is likely that you will be introduced to them at some time down the line or be introducing someone to a friend of the person you now know who is alone.

The simple truth is that unless you talk to people and interact with them you will become more and more isolated and when you feel isolated and alone you don’t feel like talking to anyone and so you are caught in a cycle of unhappiness.

Don’t you agree that the price of getting rid of your unhappiness is worth a smile and then a hello? I do, but then I do talk to a lot of people when I am out.

After the first hello you can chat about anything, from the weather to the price of Sugar it doesn’t matter, the person you smiled at will know that you aren’t a threat and vice versa and at some stage they will feel comfortable enough to suggest a coffee or something.

So smile at someone tomorrow just for me! Because there is no reason for any of us to be alone and victims of the society we live in today and stay painted into a corner.

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A first date after a while can be ‘interesting’ for all of the wrong reasons and not just because you are out of practice. When you get home you start to wonder whether you both had fun and of course whether either of you want to repeat the fun and have a second date.

So what should you do next? Well if you are a woman you are supposed to ruled by a convention that suggests that you wait to see if ‘he’ calls and if you are a man you are supposed to call if you had fun and want to see your new friend again.

That does seem to leave a lot to chance doesn’t it? So what you do next assuming that you want to see the other party again should be ruled by you not convention. Though of course what you do next should be governed by how well the date went.

If you have a nice time then there is no reason not to have another date is there? If on the other hand things didn’t go so well of course you should continue looking for what you want.

If you have a great time then call the other person and let them know and suggest another date, you will soon discover if they feel the same way about the date and are prepared to have another.

When you call, and this applies to both men and women be chatty, and make sure you say that you had a good time as quickly as possible, oddly enough few people seem to know that compliments work as well on men as women.

And tell them what you are doing now, and if you really liked him or her tell them that you are getting ready for bed and thinking of ‘them’ that works rather nicely because it is an innocent comment but just as a very slight edge.

Keep the conversation short though because you don’t want to run out of things to talk about on the second date, on the third of course you can mention the telephone conversation after the first date which is nice because it shows that you are developing some personal history that only you two share and that is the best way to start a dating regularly and building something that eventually will come to be a relationship and all from a little telephone call.

Here at www.easilyfriends.com we try to make finding a partner as easy as possible and of course ALL of our services are FREE and always will be free but pleased do take care when dating someone new for the first time.

Meet in them in a public place and leave them in a public place. Make sure that you tell someone where you are going and when you expect to return and if you are going to be late then call them and let them know.

Dating is fun and dating safely means that you will have fun safely.

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Have you ever wondered at what point a friendship becomes a relationship? Yes there is sex of course but sex is not exclusive to relationships these days and so it has to be something else doesn’t it?

So when do we go from being friends to being partners? It is something that I have thought of a lot and I think I have some suggestions to the answer but because I know that we are all human and therefore we are all so very different I wouldn’t begin to boast that I have ‘the’ answer!

Personally I think that the first in a long list of answers to the question “when is it that a relationship begins between two people?” Is that time when you go from being always excited by the person you are dating, when things start to feel comfortable.

It is when things start to feel comfortable that you both can relax and begin to enjoy each other on another level and that level is a relationship.

This is the stage in your relationship when you truly understand your partner and can enjoy the feeling that they understand you and that in turn will make you both relax and the more relaxed you are with someone the more open you are and therefore the more you will trust that person on all levels.

It is at this point that you will discover that you are spending more and more of your spare time together doing things that you both enjoy and surely that is a relationship isn’t it?

It is my hope that you find someone to share your life with and that is why I work with those nice people at www.easilyfriends.com they really help and best of all their service is totally free, even the advice that I give confidentially one to one and that has helped so many people in so many ways I am pleased to say.

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Those nice people at www.easilyfriends.com have just added what I think is a lovely feature – the ability to search for a friend, partner and more by using your Zodiac Sign.

This is a great way to discover that special friend who you can have fun with or… well who knows because you can use the compatibility of your Horoscope Sign to match with theirs.

As always when you are searching for a partner of friend you will be safer using www.easilyfriends.com than if you were to use most dating sites and that is because we carefully monitor applications to join the site which happily reduces access to the site for spammers and scammers and most importantly because we are free and will never charge you for any service ever we care about successfully finding you friends and possibly partners and we are not just after you money like pay sites.

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I have heard from a lot of my friends here at www.easilyfriends.com recently saying that they have started dating and then after a couple of nice dates things have started to go wrong and could I help them find out what it was that caused their new friend to not want to continue.

Well after a few questions I found out that the people concerned men and women I have to say, were being a little over eager, it is a common cause of break ups early on in new relationships and is usually caused by one or both of the parties being so happy that they have found someone to share their time with that they just get a little carried away.

My advice, and of course, it works, is to do two things, the first is talk to each other, and not only about the possibility that you might be so happy that you have a new friend that you might put them off a little and you definitely don’t want that so if the other person could just say if they were feeling a little threatened then that would help both of them, but also about everything.

And the second thing to do is maybe to implement a system that allows you both to get to know each other at a pace that is good for your both, this might be to restrict dates to certain days of the week and to limit contact initially so that you can allow your normal life to absorb your new friend and potential partner.

The best thing you can do with a new friend is to talk and remember that a conversation is something that is done by two people, who talk and listen to each other so don’t get carried away and just talk about you and your problems listen and also talk about normal things, your things you like doing, food you enjoy, sports you like to watch and you will find that you get to know the person you are seeing much faster and much better.

And in the long run that will help you both because the best relationships are based on sharing everything.

Remember if you need one to one counselling, answers to personal problems or just a little coaching just log onto your account at www.easilyfriends.com and write to me at EmailAbigail©, I always reply, but it may take a while because I like to personally help everyone who writes to me at EmailAbigail© and that takes a while I am afraid because there is sadly only one Abigail.

As you all know EmailAbigail© is a confidential advice line for sensible tips and advice on all aspects of meeting new people. When you need help just email Abigail, she is always there to help you! EasilyFriends is the only site of its kind to offer a comprehensive advice line service absolutely free.

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