It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.

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A first date after a while can be ‘interesting’ for all of the wrong reasons and not just because you are out of practice. When you get home you start to wonder whether you both had fun and of course whether either of you want to repeat the fun and have a second date.

So what should you do next? Well if you are a woman you are supposed to ruled by a convention that suggests that you wait to see if ‘he’ calls and if you are a man you are supposed to call if you had fun and want to see your new friend again.

That does seem to leave a lot to chance doesn’t it? So what you do next assuming that you want to see the other party again should be ruled by you not convention. Though of course what you do next should be governed by how well the date went.

If you have a nice time then there is no reason not to have another date is there? If on the other hand things didn’t go so well of course you should continue looking for what you want.

If you have a great time then call the other person and let them know and suggest another date, you will soon discover if they feel the same way about the date and are prepared to have another.

When you call, and this applies to both men and women be chatty, and make sure you say that you had a good time as quickly as possible, oddly enough few people seem to know that compliments work as well on men as women.

And tell them what you are doing now, and if you really liked him or her tell them that you are getting ready for bed and thinking of ‘them’ that works rather nicely because it is an innocent comment but just as a very slight edge.

Keep the conversation short though because you don’t want to run out of things to talk about on the second date, on the third of course you can mention the telephone conversation after the first date which is nice because it shows that you are developing some personal history that only you two share and that is the best way to start a dating regularly and building something that eventually will come to be a relationship and all from a little telephone call.

Here at www.easilyfriends.com we try to make finding a partner as easy as possible and of course ALL of our services are FREE and always will be free but pleased do take care when dating someone new for the first time.

Meet in them in a public place and leave them in a public place. Make sure that you tell someone where you are going and when you expect to return and if you are going to be late then call them and let them know.

Dating is fun and dating safely means that you will have fun safely.

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I have heard from a lot of my friends here at www.easilyfriends.com recently saying that they have started dating and then after a couple of nice dates things have started to go wrong and could I help them find out what it was that caused their new friend to not want to continue.

Well after a few questions I found out that the people concerned men and women I have to say, were being a little over eager, it is a common cause of break ups early on in new relationships and is usually caused by one or both of the parties being so happy that they have found someone to share their time with that they just get a little carried away.

My advice, and of course, it works, is to do two things, the first is talk to each other, and not only about the possibility that you might be so happy that you have a new friend that you might put them off a little and you definitely don’t want that so if the other person could just say if they were feeling a little threatened then that would help both of them, but also about everything.

And the second thing to do is maybe to implement a system that allows you both to get to know each other at a pace that is good for your both, this might be to restrict dates to certain days of the week and to limit contact initially so that you can allow your normal life to absorb your new friend and potential partner.

The best thing you can do with a new friend is to talk and remember that a conversation is something that is done by two people, who talk and listen to each other so don’t get carried away and just talk about you and your problems listen and also talk about normal things, your things you like doing, food you enjoy, sports you like to watch and you will find that you get to know the person you are seeing much faster and much better.

And in the long run that will help you both because the best relationships are based on sharing everything.

Remember if you need one to one counselling, answers to personal problems or just a little coaching just log onto your account at www.easilyfriends.com and write to me at EmailAbigail©, I always reply, but it may take a while because I like to personally help everyone who writes to me at EmailAbigail© and that takes a while I am afraid because there is sadly only one Abigail.

As you all know EmailAbigail© is a confidential advice line for sensible tips and advice on all aspects of meeting new people. When you need help just email Abigail, she is always there to help you! EasilyFriends is the only site of its kind to offer a comprehensive advice line service absolutely free.

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