Ok Ladies and Gentlemen the weather is bad everywhere and I thought that maybe as we are all stuck somewhere and possibly getting a bit down it might be time to have some fun.

Here are ten things that you shouldn’t say on a date, and indeed most of which you should never say to anyone ever.

I hope that the snow disappears and we get back to normal soon, stay safe out there.

You look good, is that one of those wonderbras?

I can’t say I know this restaurant, I have never been here before but I saw that they had a “two for the price of one deal this month.”

Do you have that feeling that they are watching you?

Oh! I am a very spiritual person, in fact I have a native Indian Spirit Guide!

No I won’t thanks, my doctors say I shouldn’t drink while I am on these drugs!

Well I didn’t mean to show everything because when I had dropped my trousers that scared the Jehovah’s Witnesses enough but when my underwear hit the ground, well I have never see anyone run that fast.

You can trust me!

I really liked your brother and the rest of your family, are you adopted?

Call me, your will call me won’t you, you won’t forget to call will you?

It is nice to get out of the house and of course to talk to someone, although I never seem to have anything much to say.

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I have been talking to the good people at www.easilyfriends.com and they have just told me that they have seen a massive increase in the numbers of people registering, free of course, to their service.

Now the reason that is good news is that the more people men and women on a dating website the better and so I strongly suggest that you visit the site and get dating, it is the only way to find a partner and of course it won’t ever cost you a penny, now or at anytime in the future and that is because www.easilyfriends.com is a site that is and always will be free.

Between you and me I don’t think that they would mind if you clicked on an ad here or there while you are doing what you came for but they exist to find you a date, enter a relationship and most of all be happy, what a nice bunch of people they are!

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For most of this year the good people at www.easilyfriends.com have been looking very closely at the way in which their members have been using their web site and dating trends in general together with the way that people use www.easilyfriends.com and the internet in general to find friends and partners.

Now the people at www.easilyfriends.com have started to use that information to improve their already excellent web site and offer some of the non-confidential research to members and of course readers of my blog.

My last blog covered the interesting fact that a large number of people around 50% log on to web sites such as www.easilyfriends.com specifically to find love, an encouraging fact if you are looking for someone to love yourself and probably the best reason to join www.easilyfriends.com which of course unlike other web sites doesn’t ask you to pay for the privilege.

As part of our research we looked at the demographic of our website and discovered that although just over 50% of our members are men 53% to be precise the number of female members has significantly increased during 2009 and the trend continues.

This of course means that as we enter 2010 and the increase in the number of woman joining www.easilyfriends.com rises they may well soon out number men and that will I am pretty confident make using www.easilyfriends.com a lot nicer for women and men alike.

All of which means whether you are male or female you are going to really enjoy visiting www.easilyfriends.com even more especially because they are the best free web dating service and that means that you don’t have to be alone.

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In all honesty I do tend, as you know, to shy away from specific offering dating tips, and that is because we are all different and what would for me might not work for you, so i try just to offer advice which you dear reader can interpret and use in a way that suits you and your personality best.

But I was asked the same question recently by a number of people recently and so I thought I would share my answer with you all.

The question was simple but it would seem the subject bothers a lot of people on a date for the first or second time, and that questions is “how do you keep the conversation going?”

Talking to someone who you don’t know very well is difficult for some people and so the best way to overcome any awkward silence is to have a few topics or indeed questions of your own stored away in your memory.

I am not suggesting that you begin an interrogation and I am not suggesting that all silences are awkward, remember a peaceful moment in a date is something you remember, they often tend to lead to kissing.

So the sort of questions to ask are ones that have pretty obvious answers. What would you do with a million pounds? Is a good one and will let you know a little more about the person you are talking to.

Holidays are great topics of conversation, tell the person you are on a date with where you went last, where you would like to go next and you will find that all sorts of conversational directions flow from a simple sentence.

If you use general subjects you will be amazed just how much the conversation will flow. Just try to relax and if you can’t remember any of the questions you thought about, sincere compliments always break the ice I have found.

At the end of the evening if you have anything in common you will have discovered some of it by chatting, and asking questions and that way you will both know if there is going to be a follow up date.

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Before you start dating seriously it is worth having a think about who you are, what you like to do, what your ambitions are and where you would like to be in say five years time.

If you do this then you will have a really good idea of who you are, because not many of us know exactly who we are. If you sit down now with paper and a pen and list ten things about you and what you want I expect like most people you would get stuck at number five or six.

There is a reason for getting stuck at number five or six and that is simply that we don’t really know ourselves very well, what it is that we want and indeed where we want to go, and if we don’t know those key elements of our lives how on earth are we going to be happy with a stranger who is trying to get to know us?

We are not are we?

At least we have a head start on the poor unfortunate person trying to get to know us, we have had the whole of our lives so far to get to know ourselves.

So the time you take to really understand yourself, what you want, who you are and so on is a very important few minutes in our lives.

The questions that you should ask yourself to discover who you are, are not unlike the ones an employer would ask oddly enough when you think about it and so if you do this little exercise you will also have the answers to what might occasionally be some difficult to answer questions at a job interview.

When you have these answers you will know a little more about yourself and the direction that you should be heading in, and then you will be able first to talk or write freely about who you are and what you want and of course you will have a much better idea about the type of partner you should be looking for, and don’t let anyone confuse you we all have our ‘types’ people who will make the perfect partner or as close to perfection as us humans can get.

You may also enjoy the journey that bring you to self awareness and self understanding, it is an interesting one because of course it is all about you.

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The idea of giving a woman flowers on a first date is actually very sweet and although they could be a massive inconvenience through-out the whole date with both of you having to carry them, remember them and find somewhere to put them when you are on your date, that will all be forgotten in time if the relationship grows into something more than a first date.

However although the flowers from a first date would be a nice memory to have, giving flowers on a first date is a little forward don’t you think? Flowers are a very personal gift and should be reserved for something special.

So on balance I think that you should concentrate on making the first date special and then if there are more dates you can think about giving your date flowers.

Lastly never ever buy flowers from a vendor with a bucket of Roses, you know the ones who visit restaurants and nightclubs with greasy hair and a matching smile.

These Roses are often on their last legs and worse they are usually wet and the water from them always stains.

But more importantly there is something dreadfully tacky about that sort of Rose seller which makes my blood run a little cooler; they are creepy and should be discouraged at all costs because they are almost certainly friends with the creeps who come around nightclubs with small animals to con you into having a picture taken with your date and a Chimp? Why I ask would you want to remember your date by having a picture of you and a tired Chimp?

And if you did wouldn’t you then have to consider inviting the Chimp and plus one to the wedding? No of course you wouldn’t so why would you want your picture taken with them ever?

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These days it is sad to say that there are a lot of oddballs about and quite frankly that makes dating whether you are a, girl meeting a girl, a girl meeting a boy or indeed a boy meeting a boy something of a risk.

Happily there are a number of things that you can do to ensure that the date you are going to have is a safe one, even if it turns out to be less than an enjoyable one.

The first thing to do is a bit of homework especially if the date you are going to have is really a blind one and no one you know has introduced you to the person you are going to meet.

The sort of homework to do is to use Google to search for the person name, then check out FB and MySpace to see if the person is online and if they are you can get a good sneak peek.

If the date comes through someone you know from your family, mates or friends work then ask questions and get the information that you need that way. Remember it really isn’t bad to ask these questions these days, so don’t feel like it is.

When you go on the date you can either double up with friends or go somewhere very public and of course don’t travel too far to the date.

As a courtesy make sure that you have your date’s phone number so that you can call if it looks as though you are going to be held up. You must know what it is like if you are standing somewhere waiting for a date to arrive and they don’t.

You feel like a complete tool and after a while you begin to start to wonder how long you should wait before you give up and you wait a little longer getting ever more uncomfortable, so don’t let that happen it isn’t fair to your date and of course will spoil the evening.

To make sure that you are safe on your date tell someone where you are going and what time you will be back and make sure that you have sufficient cash on you for any emergency.

When you are on the date, turn your phone to vibrate and try not to use it or send texts, you are there to find out more about the person you are meeting so do just that, chat about what you like to do and of course listen to what the other person has to say as well.

Remember that if you feel a little nervous then it is likely that your date does and so that is actually something that you both can talk about because it is common ground and common ground is good for couples, not of course that one date is anything more than just a date so don’t make plans of any kind on the night for a second date, there is always plenty of time to do that afterwards.

Most important of all is to make sure that you know how to get home, if you haven’t driven to the date then make sure you know what public transport is available and aim to catch it so that you don’t have to wait outside at night especially if you live in a major city.

Lastly have fun, that is why you agreed to go out in the first place and if at any time you feel uncomfortable then leave it is a free country you know and it is better to be called something nasty behind your back than to be in any form of danger.

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It is good to see that some Speed Dating companies care about their clients more than others, though in my opinion they only care about their clients cash, like the people at Speed Dating Events and I would like to thank them for their comment on my blog about Speed Dating which describes why I think that Speed dating is a terrible way to find a partner. The comment, if you want to read it, appeared on the www.easilyfriends.com website.

However in spite of their comment, I haven’t change my mind and my point remains and that is because not all Speed Dating is either well organised or well thought out.

I still maintain that you are never going to find someone to develop a long term relationship with when you are hustled from one quick chat to the next, even in a nice venue with careful professional staff in attendance.

And just quickly on the subject of venues Speed Dating event companies tend to use smelly, dirty and outdated public houses to arrange their ‘quicky’ events! Am I the only person in the world who hates pubs because they are not nice places? Thank goodness no, because I read everyday of another town or village pub closing.

The best you can hope for from a Speed Dating event is to fill your Filofax with cards and numbers from people you know you won’t call because you won’t remember who they were and of course they won’t ring for the same reason.

Really, the only thing you can expect to get out of a speed dating event is to get back into the swing of talking to people in a social situation, frankly I would choose the bus, or better still if you want an evening out go to the theatre or the ballet and in the interval find people to chat to.

As I have said before, if you talk to people even if they are in a relationship it is very likely that they will have friends like you who are looking for a relationship, but of course, first of all they are looking for a date and importantly so are you!

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It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.

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There is no need to be alone these days honestly. Believe it or not even today there are so many ways to find someone who could become your partner. One of the very best ways to find a special someone is to talk to people you see everyday.

Sadly our society has painted us into a corner because we are worried about ‘strangers’ and so we walk along the street with our heads down, sit on public transport avoiding eye contact with our fellow passengers and keep ourselves very much to ourselves and that I am afraid is a recipe for loneliness.

But that is daft because if we have a daily routine and that is probably 90% of us we encounter people everyday, nice people who are probably lonely as well and as painted into their corners as we are.

So surely it is really silly to sit at home alone when in your street let alone your town there are probably dozens of people doing the self same thing.

Tomorrow when you are walking down the street or you are on the bus or you are wherever your daily routine takes you and you see someone you have seen before smile at them, you’ll probably get a smile back.

Then the next day when you see them again do the same, after a week the person you are smiling at will probably be looking out for you so that they can smile back at you when you smile at them and that is because we humans are social animals and we enjoy contact with other members of or species.

The next step is to say hello, and soon after that maybe you will be stopping for a chat, this sort of sociable behaviour can be directed to both members of the opposite sex and to members of your own sex too and that is because you are just being socialble.

With men it is more likely to start chatting if they are at a football game or in a bar but the same logic of just chatting applies.

By chatting to members of the opposite sex you are increasing your chances of striking up a friendship or relationship and by talking to a members of the same sex you are simply widening your group of contacts.

Isn’t it true that almost all of us know someone who is on their own and it is likely that you will be introduced to them at some time down the line or be introducing someone to a friend of the person you now know who is alone.

The simple truth is that unless you talk to people and interact with them you will become more and more isolated and when you feel isolated and alone you don’t feel like talking to anyone and so you are caught in a cycle of unhappiness.

Don’t you agree that the price of getting rid of your unhappiness is worth a smile and then a hello? I do, but then I do talk to a lot of people when I am out.

After the first hello you can chat about anything, from the weather to the price of Sugar it doesn’t matter, the person you smiled at will know that you aren’t a threat and vice versa and at some stage they will feel comfortable enough to suggest a coffee or something.

So smile at someone tomorrow just for me! Because there is no reason for any of us to be alone and victims of the society we live in today and stay painted into a corner.

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