I have heard from a lot of my friends here at www.easilyfriends.com recently saying that they have started dating and then after a couple of nice dates things have started to go wrong and could I help them find out what it was that caused their new friend to not want to continue.
Well after a few questions I found out that the people concerned men and women I have to say, were being a little over eager, it is a common cause of break ups early on in new relationships and is usually caused by one or both of the parties being so happy that they have found someone to share their time with that they just get a little carried away.
My advice, and of course, it works, is to do two things, the first is talk to each other, and not only about the possibility that you might be so happy that you have a new friend that you might put them off a little and you definitely don’t want that so if the other person could just say if they were feeling a little threatened then that would help both of them, but also about everything.
And the second thing to do is maybe to implement a system that allows you both to get to know each other at a pace that is good for your both, this might be to restrict dates to certain days of the week and to limit contact initially so that you can allow your normal life to absorb your new friend and potential partner.
The best thing you can do with a new friend is to talk and remember that a conversation is something that is done by two people, who talk and listen to each other so don’t get carried away and just talk about you and your problems listen and also talk about normal things, your things you like doing, food you enjoy, sports you like to watch and you will find that you get to know the person you are seeing much faster and much better.
And in the long run that will help you both because the best relationships are based on sharing everything.
Remember if you need one to one counselling, answers to personal problems or just a little coaching just log onto your account at www.easilyfriends.com and write to me at EmailAbigail©, I always reply, but it may take a while because I like to personally help everyone who writes to me at EmailAbigail© and that takes a while I am afraid because there is sadly only one Abigail.
As you all know EmailAbigail© is a confidential advice line for sensible tips and advice on all aspects of meeting new people. When you need help just email Abigail, she is always there to help you! EasilyFriends is the only site of its kind to offer a comprehensive advice line service absolutely free.
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