You don’t have to spend your days on holiday, the lap of luxury or indeed have any of the trappings of the rich to have a relationship that will last forever.

Money, fine things, the mortgage paid off etc., help as does a good job and a secure future, but to be absolutely honest you don’t need money to love someone, in fact that practice I believe is called the “oldest profession in the world.”

Which is why it is a shame that so many people these days seem to think that the only way to happiness in any form is through riches, it isn’t. If you talk to couples who have been together for a long time they will, if you know them well enough talk about the times when they didn’t have two pennies to rub together and of course laugh about it.

If you worry more about the fact that your next partner might not have two pennies to rub together than whether he or she is kind, caring and loving, then your next relationship and the ones that follow will be a chain of disasters.

Try to think beyond the flat screen TV, a car that is less than two years old and all of the other rubbish that is so short term, if you want a relationship that lasts and will last forever then you have to think about things that won’t wear out like love, kindliness, caring and to be honest the things that make a relationship last.

So even if you are poor by others crazy standards you can walk off into the sunset together but it might not be a Caribbean one, but if you are both happy walking off into a Caribbean sunset would just be the icing on the Diamond Anniversary Cake wouldn’t it.

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Every so often I trawl the web to see what my fellow dating advisers are talking about. It is not the most pleasurable experience because in the main they talk such a load on nonsense.

Every so often I would like to bring you a little of that nonsense and give you the advice that should have been given in the first place.

Here is the first then in a very occasional series and it is only occasional because I don’t like trawling the web for this rubbish and not because here isn’t vast amounts of it out there.

I promise you I saw this on a website who will remain nameless, it is their advice to women about men with smelly shoes!

“If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.”

Ok here is what I would say on the subject if asked! First of all we all have smelly shoes, have you stuck your nose in your trainers recently? Even Prada trainers get a little how can I put this ‘aromatic.’ So don’t forget that will you please none of us are superior to the others!

Then remember that if you can smell someone’s feet so can they and they may well be embarrassed about it, this is where in normal conversation you can suggest ways to improve matters and even go shopping for insoles, hygiene products and even socks and shoes that can help.

It is possible that this is the help that the poor soul with the foot odour problem has been waiting for and of course it is good to share our problems – a problems shared is a problem halved as they say!

Even if you don’t know someone very well but you like them it isn’t rude to say darling we have to do something about ‘those.’ If you are sincere then it

Because a man or indeed a woman has smelly feet is not really a reason to dump anyone. If you know someone well enough they have probably mentioned why they prefer not to take their shoes off or that their feet do get a little rich, then all you do is suggest insoles that can help kill the bacteria that cause this problem and maybe when you have a bath together wash each other’s feet – it is quite sexy especially if you massage oils into them afterwards.

If you like someone a lot then just because they have smelly feet, bad breath or worse is not a reason to “dump them” as my friends on the other site suggested and that is because if you are intent on having a relationship whether it is with the person with smelly feet or not, you are both jolly well going to have to work at it and not bail at the first hint of turbulence.

Really if we were all perfect we could be more choosy but we are humans and the last thing that humans ever are are perfect!

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It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.

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There is no need to be alone these days honestly. Believe it or not even today there are so many ways to find someone who could become your partner. One of the very best ways to find a special someone is to talk to people you see everyday.

Sadly our society has painted us into a corner because we are worried about ‘strangers’ and so we walk along the street with our heads down, sit on public transport avoiding eye contact with our fellow passengers and keep ourselves very much to ourselves and that I am afraid is a recipe for loneliness.

But that is daft because if we have a daily routine and that is probably 90% of us we encounter people everyday, nice people who are probably lonely as well and as painted into their corners as we are.

So surely it is really silly to sit at home alone when in your street let alone your town there are probably dozens of people doing the self same thing.

Tomorrow when you are walking down the street or you are on the bus or you are wherever your daily routine takes you and you see someone you have seen before smile at them, you’ll probably get a smile back.

Then the next day when you see them again do the same, after a week the person you are smiling at will probably be looking out for you so that they can smile back at you when you smile at them and that is because we humans are social animals and we enjoy contact with other members of or species.

The next step is to say hello, and soon after that maybe you will be stopping for a chat, this sort of sociable behaviour can be directed to both members of the opposite sex and to members of your own sex too and that is because you are just being socialble.

With men it is more likely to start chatting if they are at a football game or in a bar but the same logic of just chatting applies.

By chatting to members of the opposite sex you are increasing your chances of striking up a friendship or relationship and by talking to a members of the same sex you are simply widening your group of contacts.

Isn’t it true that almost all of us know someone who is on their own and it is likely that you will be introduced to them at some time down the line or be introducing someone to a friend of the person you now know who is alone.

The simple truth is that unless you talk to people and interact with them you will become more and more isolated and when you feel isolated and alone you don’t feel like talking to anyone and so you are caught in a cycle of unhappiness.

Don’t you agree that the price of getting rid of your unhappiness is worth a smile and then a hello? I do, but then I do talk to a lot of people when I am out.

After the first hello you can chat about anything, from the weather to the price of Sugar it doesn’t matter, the person you smiled at will know that you aren’t a threat and vice versa and at some stage they will feel comfortable enough to suggest a coffee or something.

So smile at someone tomorrow just for me! Because there is no reason for any of us to be alone and victims of the society we live in today and stay painted into a corner.

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Everyone who is on their own deserves to find a special friend or partner and most importantly find happiness!

Sadly today it is increasingly difficult to find that special someone who might be a good friend or, you never know, may end up as your partner for life.

I have put together 6 steps that will help you to find someone special to share your life with. The 6 steps aren’t simple but they are easy to follow and they will help you find someone special but be warned the 6 steps mean that you need to really take a good look at yourself before you start to take a good look for a partner if you do then you will find the person who is right for you and they will delight in your company and that you have to agree is a great beginning.

The First Step

Probably the most important step in finding a special someone is the first one and that step is to really get to know yourself properly!

Yes it is a little obvious! But how on earth can you hope for someone else to get to know you when you have no idea who you are and the type of person you are looking to be friends with or more? So you need to know where you are in your life and what sort of person and relationship you are looking for.

Step Two

It is very important to sit down and think about the sort of relationship you want and the type of person you are looking for. Are at a stage in your life when you are looking for just friends, or do you want a long term relationship and marriage.

The sort of person who is just friends is very different to one who wants to settle down, get married etc., and of course it is important to know what you want because then you can look in the right place and save any heartache that might come with finding the wrong partner for you at the moment.

Step Three

You have to think about the past and ask yourself if you have ever tried to find happiness with the partner or partners you have had in the past or have you just used your former partners as objects of criticism, because it is likely that what you have at the moment maybe wonderful but you can’t see it through your attitude!

If this is the case maybe you should give the person you are with a second chance and try to see the good in your partner and do what you can to make life a better happier place and your one time lover loved again.

Even if this doesn’t work, there may come a time in the future where the love you find becomes old and stale, even routine, and that is when you might try to improve your relationship by being more loving, kinder and caring, these gifts are usually reciprocated when they are given and life will just get better and better for you and your partner.

Step Four

If you want to see how life can be when you are in a loving relationship look at people who you know who have been together for a long while, they have to be doing something right and it might be that you can spot what they are doing and use it to your advantage.

Step Five

The only way to ensure that the partner that you choose today or tomorrow will be your partner in a long term relationship is to think of your relationship as something that is going to last.

But like all things that last a long time it is going to need TLC and lots of care and attention and if you are prepared to continue to invest in this relationship it will pay dividens in the long term.

When you do this you will find that together you talk about your life together with your partner because you are both investing in the relationship and that means that you will both consider each other’s points of view and best of all well being.

The Last Step

It is so very important to ensure that the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with is right for you, never think that you can change or alter the things that you don’t like about your partner you can’t and most importantly you shouldn’t.

Just get to know the person you are friendly with so that dating, living together and spending the rest of your life together feels natural and that way you will both not only be happy but you will be making each other happy.

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Every year too many people are alone for the holidays and that is heartbreaking as far as I am concerned and that doesn’t make me a silly old softie, it makes me determined to ensure that it doesn’t happen to anyone if I can help it and that is because I have been there, long before I found my happiness I was alone for the holidays a lot and when I found my happiness I decided that I was going to try my hardest to make sure that others are not alone.

The best way I can suggest not to be alone on the holidays is to use one of our excellent free services here at www.easilyfriends.com and the one I am thinking of is the Ice Breakers™ as we call it. Ice Breakers™ make writing messages even easier and that is because there are lots of little introductory sentences to get you started chatting to a new friend.

Using Ice Breakers™ is also quick and easy and means that if you want to send a message to a few of our friends here who don’t forget are as shy as you are then you can quickly, simply and easily that is what www.easilyfriends.com is all about finding friends, companions and most of all happiness quickly, simply and easily so if you are looking for a friend to share the holidays with then do start with a few Ice Breakers™ messages now.

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