It is easy to wrong almost before begin when you are building a relationship and that is usually because of ‘personalities.’

Sometimes it is because people carry emotional ‘baggage’ from one relationship to another and that baggage just gets heavier and heavier and drags you down, other times it is because you decide that this time ‘you’ are going be a different person and that is something we humans can’t do just like leopards we are unable to change our spots.

Other times we begin a relationship with the intention to change our partner, to my way of thinking if you want to change some of the characteristics or behaviour of your partner you may as well cut out the agony that you will both suffer and leave them well alone now.

But if you can leave the baggage behind, not be so arrogant to believe that you can ‘change’ someone then you have a real chance of building a relationship.

By far and away the best way to build a relationship is to take things at a pace that you are both happy with, always remember that a relationship contains two people and although you may want to move in together tomorrow your partner may have reservations and want time to adjust to his or her new situation.

Gardeners and builders know about getting the foundations right, if you want to grow wonderful flowers you prepare your soil well and if you want to build a house that will last for centuries you get the footing right and the same is true of building a relationship. The happier, more trusting and comfortable both of you are with each other the more solid the foundation for your future.

There are a lot of things to sort out before you move in together of course but you both need to sit down and work out what it is you want and then go for it.

Always remember that if you have a happy relationship you are one of the lucky few, not every couple can without thinking or referring to each other say that they are happy. But it you work at it you will always be building upon the firm foundations that you created originally and that means that when asked if you are happy together you will both say yes without even having to pause for a moment and that is wonderful.

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Have you ever wondered at what point a friendship becomes a relationship? Yes there is sex of course but sex is not exclusive to relationships these days and so it has to be something else doesn’t it?

So when do we go from being friends to being partners? It is something that I have thought of a lot and I think I have some suggestions to the answer but because I know that we are all human and therefore we are all so very different I wouldn’t begin to boast that I have ‘the’ answer!

Personally I think that the first in a long list of answers to the question “when is it that a relationship begins between two people?” Is that time when you go from being always excited by the person you are dating, when things start to feel comfortable.

It is when things start to feel comfortable that you both can relax and begin to enjoy each other on another level and that level is a relationship.

This is the stage in your relationship when you truly understand your partner and can enjoy the feeling that they understand you and that in turn will make you both relax and the more relaxed you are with someone the more open you are and therefore the more you will trust that person on all levels.

It is at this point that you will discover that you are spending more and more of your spare time together doing things that you both enjoy and surely that is a relationship isn’t it?

It is my hope that you find someone to share your life with and that is why I work with those nice people at www.easilyfriends.com they really help and best of all their service is totally free, even the advice that I give confidentially one to one and that has helped so many people in so many ways I am pleased to say.

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Everyone who is on their own deserves to find a special friend or partner and most importantly find happiness!

Sadly today it is increasingly difficult to find that special someone who might be a good friend or, you never know, may end up as your partner for life.

I have put together 6 steps that will help you to find someone special to share your life with. The 6 steps aren’t simple but they are easy to follow and they will help you find someone special but be warned the 6 steps mean that you need to really take a good look at yourself before you start to take a good look for a partner if you do then you will find the person who is right for you and they will delight in your company and that you have to agree is a great beginning.

The First Step

Probably the most important step in finding a special someone is the first one and that step is to really get to know yourself properly!

Yes it is a little obvious! But how on earth can you hope for someone else to get to know you when you have no idea who you are and the type of person you are looking to be friends with or more? So you need to know where you are in your life and what sort of person and relationship you are looking for.

Step Two

It is very important to sit down and think about the sort of relationship you want and the type of person you are looking for. Are at a stage in your life when you are looking for just friends, or do you want a long term relationship and marriage.

The sort of person who is just friends is very different to one who wants to settle down, get married etc., and of course it is important to know what you want because then you can look in the right place and save any heartache that might come with finding the wrong partner for you at the moment.

Step Three

You have to think about the past and ask yourself if you have ever tried to find happiness with the partner or partners you have had in the past or have you just used your former partners as objects of criticism, because it is likely that what you have at the moment maybe wonderful but you can’t see it through your attitude!

If this is the case maybe you should give the person you are with a second chance and try to see the good in your partner and do what you can to make life a better happier place and your one time lover loved again.

Even if this doesn’t work, there may come a time in the future where the love you find becomes old and stale, even routine, and that is when you might try to improve your relationship by being more loving, kinder and caring, these gifts are usually reciprocated when they are given and life will just get better and better for you and your partner.

Step Four

If you want to see how life can be when you are in a loving relationship look at people who you know who have been together for a long while, they have to be doing something right and it might be that you can spot what they are doing and use it to your advantage.

Step Five

The only way to ensure that the partner that you choose today or tomorrow will be your partner in a long term relationship is to think of your relationship as something that is going to last.

But like all things that last a long time it is going to need TLC and lots of care and attention and if you are prepared to continue to invest in this relationship it will pay dividens in the long term.

When you do this you will find that together you talk about your life together with your partner because you are both investing in the relationship and that means that you will both consider each other’s points of view and best of all well being.

The Last Step

It is so very important to ensure that the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with is right for you, never think that you can change or alter the things that you don’t like about your partner you can’t and most importantly you shouldn’t.

Just get to know the person you are friendly with so that dating, living together and spending the rest of your life together feels natural and that way you will both not only be happy but you will be making each other happy.

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Those nice people at www.easilyfriends.com have just added what I think is a lovely feature – the ability to search for a friend, partner and more by using your Zodiac Sign.

This is a great way to discover that special friend who you can have fun with or… well who knows because you can use the compatibility of your Horoscope Sign to match with theirs.

As always when you are searching for a partner of friend you will be safer using www.easilyfriends.com than if you were to use most dating sites and that is because we carefully monitor applications to join the site which happily reduces access to the site for spammers and scammers and most importantly because we are free and will never charge you for any service ever we care about successfully finding you friends and possibly partners and we are not just after you money like pay sites.

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Hello again! Have you noticed I have become quite addicted to blogging, I do hope that it lasts because it is really great to talk.

One thing that I didn’t expect was that just writing a few tips about dating here has meant that more people are coming to my lovely free dating website www.easilyfriends.com.

You can call me old fashioned if you want to, but you know, for me it is such a pleasure to help people find each other and make friends and when they find love it is just wonderful.

If you haven’t been to www.easilyfriends.com do drop by sometime. It is one of the very few websites that can honestly and truthfully boast that it is free and always well be free.

The only pre-requisite we have here is that you must sincerely want to find friends and of course love if you can.

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