You don’t have to spend your days on holiday, the lap of luxury or indeed have any of the trappings of the rich to have a relationship that will last forever.

Money, fine things, the mortgage paid off etc., help as does a good job and a secure future, but to be absolutely honest you don’t need money to love someone, in fact that practice I believe is called the “oldest profession in the world.”

Which is why it is a shame that so many people these days seem to think that the only way to happiness in any form is through riches, it isn’t. If you talk to couples who have been together for a long time they will, if you know them well enough talk about the times when they didn’t have two pennies to rub together and of course laugh about it.

If you worry more about the fact that your next partner might not have two pennies to rub together than whether he or she is kind, caring and loving, then your next relationship and the ones that follow will be a chain of disasters.

Try to think beyond the flat screen TV, a car that is less than two years old and all of the other rubbish that is so short term, if you want a relationship that lasts and will last forever then you have to think about things that won’t wear out like love, kindliness, caring and to be honest the things that make a relationship last.

So even if you are poor by others crazy standards you can walk off into the sunset together but it might not be a Caribbean one, but if you are both happy walking off into a Caribbean sunset would just be the icing on the Diamond Anniversary Cake wouldn’t it.

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Whether you are in a relationship or looking for one, I suggest that you make 2010 a new beginning and that is because there is nothing more exciting for couples than to do different things and surprise each other, with flowers, treats and of course in the bedroom.

If you aren’t in a relationship and sadly I know that a lot of my readers both men and women have yet to find that special partner who is out there waiting to complete their life, it is time to look at yourself.

Think about the people you meet, on dates, casually and in general, try and analyse what you like about them and then compare that to your ‘ideal’ person.

We all have ‘idea’ people and of course because they are imaginary we endow them with all sorts of attributes and talents, but sometimes we might be guilty of imagining that our perfect partner who we have carefully constructed exists, they don’t, they never have and frankly they never will.

We all have deficiencies, are capable of annoying ourselves with our little ways let alone our partners so no one can be perfect can they.

So think about what you liked in the people you have met recently and try to create a ‘perfect’ partner who is a little more realistic and you never know you may actually have met him or her already, you just didn’t know it yet.

Write to me with your thoughts you can find me here most days www.easilyfriends.com.

Let’s make 2010 a new beginning for everyone and then we’ll all be happier at the end of the year!

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First I would like to say that I hope that you are not going to be alone this Holiday Season, there is not much worse than tat, and I promise you I know, I have been there and although it was a long while ago now I still remember the loneliness, the talking to yourself and the wondering whether you should bother to cook for one.

Honestly I promise that together you and I ad of course www.easilyfriends.com will do something positive about you being alone soon, that is of course if you have joined up to www.easilyfriends.com it is free and easy to use and will never charge you anything.

It is the fact that www.easilyfriends.com is free that I like it they want to help you and not help themselves to your hard earned cash.

So we are nearly into another year and after the fireworks have faded and the parties finished you will have a whole new year to focus on and we are going to find you a partner and turn your friendship into a relationship.

A lot of people have recently written to me asking the where I think the best place to meet a new friend would be and I have to say now after all of the information that has been passed to me from the people at www.easilyfriends.com I have to say that the internet is probably taking over as the place to meet people of both genders.

Obviously you have to be careful who you talk to but meeting someone on the internet is like meeting someone on a train or in a bar, what do you really know about them? Not much is the answer. Ok you’ll say at least in a bar or on a train you will be able to see the person you are talking to but have you heard of skype and webcams yet?

Webcams are very handy and you can use them to have a face to face conversation with anyone anywhere and of course skype is like www.easilyfriends.com free to use which is great.

So I would like to suggest that if you are at a loose end this Christmas and New Year that you get yourself online, treat yourself to a webcam and a free copy of skype and get chatting to people.

And of course unless the person is in an internet café then you will be able to get to know more about him or her just by listening to the surrounding noise if there are children ask if they belong to the person you are talking to, if there is anything sinister or odd about the room the person is talking to you from then they might be the same and you will get to know much sooner than if you met this person in the street, in a bar or on a train.

Use technology to get a date and when you are on the date use the same safeguards you always use a lot of people are doing that these days.

Happy Christmas to all my readers.

Abigail

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63% of women say that the a man says ‘I love you’ first.

11% of all men believe that finding a life partner is important.

6% of all women are looking seriously looking for a life partner.

40% of all women consider that a man’s education is more important than whether he is handsome or not.

34% of all women believe that a deposit on a home is a more significant sign of commitment than an engagement ring.

29% of all women spend more time shopping than they do looking for life partner.

As a rule people either men or women go on 100 dates before they marry.

8 out of 10 singles believe that the first kiss is a very good indication what their rest of any relationship will be like.

Everyone here at www.easilyfriends.com would like to wish all of you a Merry Happy Christmas and a Very Happy New Year!

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Actually that is probably the wrong headline for today’s article because I was going to start this article by saying that I thought I would give you a day off from percentages and suggestions and I mean, to I promise!

On a Tuesday I usually spend some time looking at dating sites, dating blogs and indeed all things dating, to see what my competition is doing and I have to say that I think that most of them have missed the fact that this is the season of goodwill to all, including ‘men.’

What is wrong with my fellow female dating ‘experts?’ Why do they seem to hate men so much? Really the number of dating blogs with the word ‘bastard’ in is just frankly astonishing and to make matters worse the word that follows ‘bastard’ is men!

Come on ladies please give men a break, unless you are considering either living as a celibate or as a lesbian, we sort of need men, and if you don’t, then the rest of us do and that means that we have to stop putting men down and worse calling them names. Please try to remember we are grown women and not in the second or third grade.

Men are not all bad you know! If you have had a bad one then I am sorry for you, but you are/were unlucky because for every bad man you have known there is a bad woman as well.

Which leads me to the real point of this blog. Try to remember why we seek the company of a partner, we do it because it makes us feel better basically, no other reason. If someone is not very nice they will demonstrate that side of their character and you should get rid of him or of course her. But never give up hope there is someone out there for you, you just haven’t found them yet.

And remember that labelling all men or indeed women as bitches or bastards does no one any good, all men and women aren’t bitches or bastards, they are simply your potential partners.

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For most of this year the good people at www.easilyfriends.com have been looking very closely at the way in which their members have been using their web site and dating trends in general together with the way that people use www.easilyfriends.com and the internet in general to find friends and partners.

Now the people at www.easilyfriends.com have started to use that information to improve their already excellent web site and offer some of the non-confidential research to members and of course readers of my blog.

My last blog covered the interesting fact that a large number of people around 50% log on to web sites such as www.easilyfriends.com specifically to find love, an encouraging fact if you are looking for someone to love yourself and probably the best reason to join www.easilyfriends.com which of course unlike other web sites doesn’t ask you to pay for the privilege.

As part of our research we looked at the demographic of our website and discovered that although just over 50% of our members are men 53% to be precise the number of female members has significantly increased during 2009 and the trend continues.

This of course means that as we enter 2010 and the increase in the number of woman joining www.easilyfriends.com rises they may well soon out number men and that will I am pretty confident make using www.easilyfriends.com a lot nicer for women and men alike.

All of which means whether you are male or female you are going to really enjoy visiting www.easilyfriends.com even more especially because they are the best free web dating service and that means that you don’t have to be alone.

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Every so often I trawl the web to see what my fellow dating advisers are talking about. It is not the most pleasurable experience because in the main they talk such a load on nonsense.

Every so often I would like to bring you a little of that nonsense and give you the advice that should have been given in the first place.

Here is the first then in a very occasional series and it is only occasional because I don’t like trawling the web for this rubbish and not because here isn’t vast amounts of it out there.

I promise you I saw this on a website who will remain nameless, it is their advice to women about men with smelly shoes!

“If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.”

Ok here is what I would say on the subject if asked! First of all we all have smelly shoes, have you stuck your nose in your trainers recently? Even Prada trainers get a little how can I put this ‘aromatic.’ So don’t forget that will you please none of us are superior to the others!

Then remember that if you can smell someone’s feet so can they and they may well be embarrassed about it, this is where in normal conversation you can suggest ways to improve matters and even go shopping for insoles, hygiene products and even socks and shoes that can help.

It is possible that this is the help that the poor soul with the foot odour problem has been waiting for and of course it is good to share our problems – a problems shared is a problem halved as they say!

Even if you don’t know someone very well but you like them it isn’t rude to say darling we have to do something about ‘those.’ If you are sincere then it

Because a man or indeed a woman has smelly feet is not really a reason to dump anyone. If you know someone well enough they have probably mentioned why they prefer not to take their shoes off or that their feet do get a little rich, then all you do is suggest insoles that can help kill the bacteria that cause this problem and maybe when you have a bath together wash each other’s feet – it is quite sexy especially if you massage oils into them afterwards.

If you like someone a lot then just because they have smelly feet, bad breath or worse is not a reason to “dump them” as my friends on the other site suggested and that is because if you are intent on having a relationship whether it is with the person with smelly feet or not, you are both jolly well going to have to work at it and not bail at the first hint of turbulence.

Really if we were all perfect we could be more choosy but we are humans and the last thing that humans ever are are perfect!

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In a world that recently has shown itself to be a place full of corruption, greed and stupidity it is important to remember that if you want to build a stable long term relationship with a partner you should do the opposite of American, Arab and European bankers and businessmen and be generous and honest.

Just look where greed, stupidity and corruption have got them? Nowhere yet like the children from a bad marriage it is us the poor people in the street that suffer because we bear the cost for the actions of the greedy idiots.

So it you want to have a relationship that lasts first try to be generous and kind yourself and then find someone who thinks the same. Both of you may not ever be the richest people in the world but you will be among a very select few who are the happiest.

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It is good to see that some Speed Dating companies care about their clients more than others, though in my opinion they only care about their clients cash, like the people at Speed Dating Events and I would like to thank them for their comment on my blog about Speed Dating which describes why I think that Speed dating is a terrible way to find a partner. The comment, if you want to read it, appeared on the www.easilyfriends.com website.

However in spite of their comment, I haven’t change my mind and my point remains and that is because not all Speed Dating is either well organised or well thought out.

I still maintain that you are never going to find someone to develop a long term relationship with when you are hustled from one quick chat to the next, even in a nice venue with careful professional staff in attendance.

And just quickly on the subject of venues Speed Dating event companies tend to use smelly, dirty and outdated public houses to arrange their ‘quicky’ events! Am I the only person in the world who hates pubs because they are not nice places? Thank goodness no, because I read everyday of another town or village pub closing.

The best you can hope for from a Speed Dating event is to fill your Filofax with cards and numbers from people you know you won’t call because you won’t remember who they were and of course they won’t ring for the same reason.

Really, the only thing you can expect to get out of a speed dating event is to get back into the swing of talking to people in a social situation, frankly I would choose the bus, or better still if you want an evening out go to the theatre or the ballet and in the interval find people to chat to.

As I have said before, if you talk to people even if they are in a relationship it is very likely that they will have friends like you who are looking for a relationship, but of course, first of all they are looking for a date and importantly so are you!

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It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.