It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.

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There is no need to be alone these days honestly. Believe it or not even today there are so many ways to find someone who could become your partner. One of the very best ways to find a special someone is to talk to people you see everyday.

Sadly our society has painted us into a corner because we are worried about ‘strangers’ and so we walk along the street with our heads down, sit on public transport avoiding eye contact with our fellow passengers and keep ourselves very much to ourselves and that I am afraid is a recipe for loneliness.

But that is daft because if we have a daily routine and that is probably 90% of us we encounter people everyday, nice people who are probably lonely as well and as painted into their corners as we are.

So surely it is really silly to sit at home alone when in your street let alone your town there are probably dozens of people doing the self same thing.

Tomorrow when you are walking down the street or you are on the bus or you are wherever your daily routine takes you and you see someone you have seen before smile at them, you’ll probably get a smile back.

Then the next day when you see them again do the same, after a week the person you are smiling at will probably be looking out for you so that they can smile back at you when you smile at them and that is because we humans are social animals and we enjoy contact with other members of or species.

The next step is to say hello, and soon after that maybe you will be stopping for a chat, this sort of sociable behaviour can be directed to both members of the opposite sex and to members of your own sex too and that is because you are just being socialble.

With men it is more likely to start chatting if they are at a football game or in a bar but the same logic of just chatting applies.

By chatting to members of the opposite sex you are increasing your chances of striking up a friendship or relationship and by talking to a members of the same sex you are simply widening your group of contacts.

Isn’t it true that almost all of us know someone who is on their own and it is likely that you will be introduced to them at some time down the line or be introducing someone to a friend of the person you now know who is alone.

The simple truth is that unless you talk to people and interact with them you will become more and more isolated and when you feel isolated and alone you don’t feel like talking to anyone and so you are caught in a cycle of unhappiness.

Don’t you agree that the price of getting rid of your unhappiness is worth a smile and then a hello? I do, but then I do talk to a lot of people when I am out.

After the first hello you can chat about anything, from the weather to the price of Sugar it doesn’t matter, the person you smiled at will know that you aren’t a threat and vice versa and at some stage they will feel comfortable enough to suggest a coffee or something.

So smile at someone tomorrow just for me! Because there is no reason for any of us to be alone and victims of the society we live in today and stay painted into a corner.

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Have you ever wondered at what point a friendship becomes a relationship? Yes there is sex of course but sex is not exclusive to relationships these days and so it has to be something else doesn’t it?

So when do we go from being friends to being partners? It is something that I have thought of a lot and I think I have some suggestions to the answer but because I know that we are all human and therefore we are all so very different I wouldn’t begin to boast that I have ‘the’ answer!

Personally I think that the first in a long list of answers to the question “when is it that a relationship begins between two people?” Is that time when you go from being always excited by the person you are dating, when things start to feel comfortable.

It is when things start to feel comfortable that you both can relax and begin to enjoy each other on another level and that level is a relationship.

This is the stage in your relationship when you truly understand your partner and can enjoy the feeling that they understand you and that in turn will make you both relax and the more relaxed you are with someone the more open you are and therefore the more you will trust that person on all levels.

It is at this point that you will discover that you are spending more and more of your spare time together doing things that you both enjoy and surely that is a relationship isn’t it?

It is my hope that you find someone to share your life with and that is why I work with those nice people at www.easilyfriends.com they really help and best of all their service is totally free, even the advice that I give confidentially one to one and that has helped so many people in so many ways I am pleased to say.

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Everyone who is on their own deserves to find a special friend or partner and most importantly find happiness!

Sadly today it is increasingly difficult to find that special someone who might be a good friend or, you never know, may end up as your partner for life.

I have put together 6 steps that will help you to find someone special to share your life with. The 6 steps aren’t simple but they are easy to follow and they will help you find someone special but be warned the 6 steps mean that you need to really take a good look at yourself before you start to take a good look for a partner if you do then you will find the person who is right for you and they will delight in your company and that you have to agree is a great beginning.

The First Step

Probably the most important step in finding a special someone is the first one and that step is to really get to know yourself properly!

Yes it is a little obvious! But how on earth can you hope for someone else to get to know you when you have no idea who you are and the type of person you are looking to be friends with or more? So you need to know where you are in your life and what sort of person and relationship you are looking for.

Step Two

It is very important to sit down and think about the sort of relationship you want and the type of person you are looking for. Are at a stage in your life when you are looking for just friends, or do you want a long term relationship and marriage.

The sort of person who is just friends is very different to one who wants to settle down, get married etc., and of course it is important to know what you want because then you can look in the right place and save any heartache that might come with finding the wrong partner for you at the moment.

Step Three

You have to think about the past and ask yourself if you have ever tried to find happiness with the partner or partners you have had in the past or have you just used your former partners as objects of criticism, because it is likely that what you have at the moment maybe wonderful but you can’t see it through your attitude!

If this is the case maybe you should give the person you are with a second chance and try to see the good in your partner and do what you can to make life a better happier place and your one time lover loved again.

Even if this doesn’t work, there may come a time in the future where the love you find becomes old and stale, even routine, and that is when you might try to improve your relationship by being more loving, kinder and caring, these gifts are usually reciprocated when they are given and life will just get better and better for you and your partner.

Step Four

If you want to see how life can be when you are in a loving relationship look at people who you know who have been together for a long while, they have to be doing something right and it might be that you can spot what they are doing and use it to your advantage.

Step Five

The only way to ensure that the partner that you choose today or tomorrow will be your partner in a long term relationship is to think of your relationship as something that is going to last.

But like all things that last a long time it is going to need TLC and lots of care and attention and if you are prepared to continue to invest in this relationship it will pay dividens in the long term.

When you do this you will find that together you talk about your life together with your partner because you are both investing in the relationship and that means that you will both consider each other’s points of view and best of all well being.

The Last Step

It is so very important to ensure that the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with is right for you, never think that you can change or alter the things that you don’t like about your partner you can’t and most importantly you shouldn’t.

Just get to know the person you are friendly with so that dating, living together and spending the rest of your life together feels natural and that way you will both not only be happy but you will be making each other happy.

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Those nice people at www.easilyfriends.com have just added what I think is a lovely feature – the ability to search for a friend, partner and more by using your Zodiac Sign.

This is a great way to discover that special friend who you can have fun with or… well who knows because you can use the compatibility of your Horoscope Sign to match with theirs.

As always when you are searching for a partner of friend you will be safer using www.easilyfriends.com than if you were to use most dating sites and that is because we carefully monitor applications to join the site which happily reduces access to the site for spammers and scammers and most importantly because we are free and will never charge you for any service ever we care about successfully finding you friends and possibly partners and we are not just after you money like pay sites.

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Hello again! Have you noticed I have become quite addicted to blogging, I do hope that it lasts because it is really great to talk.

One thing that I didn’t expect was that just writing a few tips about dating here has meant that more people are coming to my lovely free dating website www.easilyfriends.com.

You can call me old fashioned if you want to, but you know, for me it is such a pleasure to help people find each other and make friends and when they find love it is just wonderful.

If you haven’t been to www.easilyfriends.com do drop by sometime. It is one of the very few websites that can honestly and truthfully boast that it is free and always well be free.

The only pre-requisite we have here is that you must sincerely want to find friends and of course love if you can.

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I have heard from a lot of my friends here at www.easilyfriends.com recently saying that they have started dating and then after a couple of nice dates things have started to go wrong and could I help them find out what it was that caused their new friend to not want to continue.

Well after a few questions I found out that the people concerned men and women I have to say, were being a little over eager, it is a common cause of break ups early on in new relationships and is usually caused by one or both of the parties being so happy that they have found someone to share their time with that they just get a little carried away.

My advice, and of course, it works, is to do two things, the first is talk to each other, and not only about the possibility that you might be so happy that you have a new friend that you might put them off a little and you definitely don’t want that so if the other person could just say if they were feeling a little threatened then that would help both of them, but also about everything.

And the second thing to do is maybe to implement a system that allows you both to get to know each other at a pace that is good for your both, this might be to restrict dates to certain days of the week and to limit contact initially so that you can allow your normal life to absorb your new friend and potential partner.

The best thing you can do with a new friend is to talk and remember that a conversation is something that is done by two people, who talk and listen to each other so don’t get carried away and just talk about you and your problems listen and also talk about normal things, your things you like doing, food you enjoy, sports you like to watch and you will find that you get to know the person you are seeing much faster and much better.

And in the long run that will help you both because the best relationships are based on sharing everything.

Remember if you need one to one counselling, answers to personal problems or just a little coaching just log onto your account at www.easilyfriends.com and write to me at EmailAbigail©, I always reply, but it may take a while because I like to personally help everyone who writes to me at EmailAbigail© and that takes a while I am afraid because there is sadly only one Abigail.

As you all know EmailAbigail© is a confidential advice line for sensible tips and advice on all aspects of meeting new people. When you need help just email Abigail, she is always there to help you! EasilyFriends is the only site of its kind to offer a comprehensive advice line service absolutely free.

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