Of all the most unsavoury things to cross the Atlantic recently, I have to say that I think speed dating was one of the worst!

It is actually ‘up there’ with Adam Lambert and of course Jay Sean and indeed anyone whose name is anything to do with ‘cents’ no matter what division of a dollar they happen to be and of course anyone who wears that dreadful stuff ‘bling.’

As far as I was concerned and frankly speed dating ‘concerned’ me; speed dating was insulting, petty and really rather pathetic.

Oh the concept sounded all rather fine as I am afraid mere ‘concepts’ always do, but finding a partner and beginning a relationship is nothing to do with several five minute chats in the early evening at a bar that is hired by the hour on slow days.

No dating and finding a partner is a slow process that takes patience, time and most of all dedication plus commitment.

Speed dating was all very well and good as a way of massaging the egos of people who think that they are busy. Sad people who spend a lot of time cutting down and neatly packaging the things they do in their, not very normal, lives so that at the end of the evening they have plenty of time to go home and think about how alone they are.

I am sorry but no one on the planet is too busy for a relationship or beginning to build one and if you can name anyone and then prove that they are; I will happily print the information here on my very precious and popular blog and give you the credit you both deserve for being very rare indeed.

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Hello again! Have you noticed I have become quite addicted to blogging, I do hope that it lasts because it is really great to talk.

One thing that I didn’t expect was that just writing a few tips about dating here has meant that more people are coming to my lovely free dating website www.easilyfriends.com.

You can call me old fashioned if you want to, but you know, for me it is such a pleasure to help people find each other and make friends and when they find love it is just wonderful.

If you haven’t been to www.easilyfriends.com do drop by sometime. It is one of the very few websites that can honestly and truthfully boast that it is free and always well be free.

The only pre-requisite we have here is that you must sincerely want to find friends and of course love if you can.

I have heard from a lot of my friends here at www.easilyfriends.com recently saying that they have started dating and then after a couple of nice dates things have started to go wrong and could I help them find out what it was that caused their new friend to not want to continue.

Well after a few questions I found out that the people concerned men and women I have to say, were being a little over eager, it is a common cause of break ups early on in new relationships and is usually caused by one or both of the parties being so happy that they have found someone to share their time with that they just get a little carried away.

My advice, and of course, it works, is to do two things, the first is talk to each other, and not only about the possibility that you might be so happy that you have a new friend that you might put them off a little and you definitely don’t want that so if the other person could just say if they were feeling a little threatened then that would help both of them, but also about everything.

And the second thing to do is maybe to implement a system that allows you both to get to know each other at a pace that is good for your both, this might be to restrict dates to certain days of the week and to limit contact initially so that you can allow your normal life to absorb your new friend and potential partner.

The best thing you can do with a new friend is to talk and remember that a conversation is something that is done by two people, who talk and listen to each other so don’t get carried away and just talk about you and your problems listen and also talk about normal things, your things you like doing, food you enjoy, sports you like to watch and you will find that you get to know the person you are seeing much faster and much better.

And in the long run that will help you both because the best relationships are based on sharing everything.

Remember if you need one to one counselling, answers to personal problems or just a little coaching just log onto your account at www.easilyfriends.com and write to me at EmailAbigail©, I always reply, but it may take a while because I like to personally help everyone who writes to me at EmailAbigail© and that takes a while I am afraid because there is sadly only one Abigail.

As you all know EmailAbigail© is a confidential advice line for sensible tips and advice on all aspects of meeting new people. When you need help just email Abigail, she is always there to help you! EasilyFriends is the only site of its kind to offer a comprehensive advice line service absolutely free.