Every so often I trawl the web to see what my fellow dating advisers are talking about. It is not the most pleasurable experience because in the main they talk such a load on nonsense.

Every so often I would like to bring you a little of that nonsense and give you the advice that should have been given in the first place.

Here is the first then in a very occasional series and it is only occasional because I don’t like trawling the web for this rubbish and not because here isn’t vast amounts of it out there.

I promise you I saw this on a website who will remain nameless, it is their advice to women about men with smelly shoes!

“If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.”

Ok here is what I would say on the subject if asked! First of all we all have smelly shoes, have you stuck your nose in your trainers recently? Even Prada trainers get a little how can I put this ‘aromatic.’ So don’t forget that will you please none of us are superior to the others!

Then remember that if you can smell someone’s feet so can they and they may well be embarrassed about it, this is where in normal conversation you can suggest ways to improve matters and even go shopping for insoles, hygiene products and even socks and shoes that can help.

It is possible that this is the help that the poor soul with the foot odour problem has been waiting for and of course it is good to share our problems – a problems shared is a problem halved as they say!

Even if you don’t know someone very well but you like them it isn’t rude to say darling we have to do something about ‘those.’ If you are sincere then it

Because a man or indeed a woman has smelly feet is not really a reason to dump anyone. If you know someone well enough they have probably mentioned why they prefer not to take their shoes off or that their feet do get a little rich, then all you do is suggest insoles that can help kill the bacteria that cause this problem and maybe when you have a bath together wash each other’s feet – it is quite sexy especially if you massage oils into them afterwards.

If you like someone a lot then just because they have smelly feet, bad breath or worse is not a reason to “dump them” as my friends on the other site suggested and that is because if you are intent on having a relationship whether it is with the person with smelly feet or not, you are both jolly well going to have to work at it and not bail at the first hint of turbulence.

Really if we were all perfect we could be more choosy but we are humans and the last thing that humans ever are are perfect!

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Giving one-to-one advice or mentioning advice that I might have given someone is something I rarely do in my blog because I want my blog to be general and that way enable as many people as possible to benefit from what I publish here.

However this morning I was minding my own business sightseeing on a big red London bus, I am in London for a few days it is nice, but it is so crowded and London is one of the dirtiest, most polluted places I have ever visited oh and the standard of service is pretty poor too, frankly I wouldn’t recommend London as a place to visit.

Still I didn’t come here to moan, I came here to tell you about something that happened this morning on the aforementioned bus which was both flattering and in a way rather sad.

A young man got on the bus at Oxford Street close to a Pedestrian Crossing that seems to be designed to give buses and taxis more than one chance to people crossing Oxford Street, it looked very dangerous indeed. The young man was in his mid twenties I guess and as he passed by me he smiled!

That was nice I thought to myself especially as I was feeling as though I was in the middle of a city where no one smiles ever, a cue that I presume comes from the politicians of the land who all seem to be talking seriously and never smile.

After a while, we had just been whisked rather rapidly around Trafalgar Square I recall, gee buses travel fast in London, the young man approached me and asked me if my name was Abigail and I nodded, he asked if he could sit next to be and then began to tell me about his girlfriend.

I was so disturbed to hear his story that I ended up getting off the bus in a place called Brixton, mmh! is all I will say about that place, I thought the middle of London was dirty until I tried to walk through the trash lined Brixton High Street.

Obviously I can’t mention specifics but the young man said that he and his girlfriend had been living together for a number of years and recently within the last six to eight months and for no apparent reason she had been going out and staying out sometimes over night.

The young man said that he loved his girlfriend and had tried to have one of those chats that we all attempt, the “what is wrong! Is it me!” type of conversation, but his girlfriend had erupted saying that he was ruining her life and all she wanted was freedom and he didn’t give her any.

Well I told him what I thought I would do in that situation, which is give her all of the freedom she is demanding and move out immediately, I don’t know if he will but it would be best.

Please everyone remember that relationships are about sharing, they are not meant to be one sided and no partner is supposed to take advantage of the other, if they do they probably always will and the best thing to do in those circumstances is to leave and find someone who wants to be with you and wants to share a life with you, you deserve to be happy as well as your partner no matter whether you are a man or a woman.

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