It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.

There is no need to be alone these days honestly. Believe it or not even today there are so many ways to find someone who could become your partner. One of the very best ways to find a special someone is to talk to people you see everyday.

Sadly our society has painted us into a corner because we are worried about ‘strangers’ and so we walk along the street with our heads down, sit on public transport avoiding eye contact with our fellow passengers and keep ourselves very much to ourselves and that I am afraid is a recipe for loneliness.

But that is daft because if we have a daily routine and that is probably 90% of us we encounter people everyday, nice people who are probably lonely as well and as painted into their corners as we are.

So surely it is really silly to sit at home alone when in your street let alone your town there are probably dozens of people doing the self same thing.

Tomorrow when you are walking down the street or you are on the bus or you are wherever your daily routine takes you and you see someone you have seen before smile at them, you’ll probably get a smile back.

Then the next day when you see them again do the same, after a week the person you are smiling at will probably be looking out for you so that they can smile back at you when you smile at them and that is because we humans are social animals and we enjoy contact with other members of or species.

The next step is to say hello, and soon after that maybe you will be stopping for a chat, this sort of sociable behaviour can be directed to both members of the opposite sex and to members of your own sex too and that is because you are just being socialble.

With men it is more likely to start chatting if they are at a football game or in a bar but the same logic of just chatting applies.

By chatting to members of the opposite sex you are increasing your chances of striking up a friendship or relationship and by talking to a members of the same sex you are simply widening your group of contacts.

Isn’t it true that almost all of us know someone who is on their own and it is likely that you will be introduced to them at some time down the line or be introducing someone to a friend of the person you now know who is alone.

The simple truth is that unless you talk to people and interact with them you will become more and more isolated and when you feel isolated and alone you don’t feel like talking to anyone and so you are caught in a cycle of unhappiness.

Don’t you agree that the price of getting rid of your unhappiness is worth a smile and then a hello? I do, but then I do talk to a lot of people when I am out.

After the first hello you can chat about anything, from the weather to the price of Sugar it doesn’t matter, the person you smiled at will know that you aren’t a threat and vice versa and at some stage they will feel comfortable enough to suggest a coffee or something.

So smile at someone tomorrow just for me! Because there is no reason for any of us to be alone and victims of the society we live in today and stay painted into a corner.