It is easy to wrong almost before begin when you are building a relationship and that is usually because of ‘personalities.’

Sometimes it is because people carry emotional ‘baggage’ from one relationship to another and that baggage just gets heavier and heavier and drags you down, other times it is because you decide that this time ‘you’ are going be a different person and that is something we humans can’t do just like leopards we are unable to change our spots.

Other times we begin a relationship with the intention to change our partner, to my way of thinking if you want to change some of the characteristics or behaviour of your partner you may as well cut out the agony that you will both suffer and leave them well alone now.

But if you can leave the baggage behind, not be so arrogant to believe that you can ‘change’ someone then you have a real chance of building a relationship.

By far and away the best way to build a relationship is to take things at a pace that you are both happy with, always remember that a relationship contains two people and although you may want to move in together tomorrow your partner may have reservations and want time to adjust to his or her new situation.

Gardeners and builders know about getting the foundations right, if you want to grow wonderful flowers you prepare your soil well and if you want to build a house that will last for centuries you get the footing right and the same is true of building a relationship. The happier, more trusting and comfortable both of you are with each other the more solid the foundation for your future.

There are a lot of things to sort out before you move in together of course but you both need to sit down and work out what it is you want and then go for it.

Always remember that if you have a happy relationship you are one of the lucky few, not every couple can without thinking or referring to each other say that they are happy. But it you work at it you will always be building upon the firm foundations that you created originally and that means that when asked if you are happy together you will both say yes without even having to pause for a moment and that is wonderful.