You don’t have to spend your days on holiday, the lap of luxury or indeed have any of the trappings of the rich to have a relationship that will last forever.

Money, fine things, the mortgage paid off etc., help as does a good job and a secure future, but to be absolutely honest you don’t need money to love someone, in fact that practice I believe is called the “oldest profession in the world.”

Which is why it is a shame that so many people these days seem to think that the only way to happiness in any form is through riches, it isn’t. If you talk to couples who have been together for a long time they will, if you know them well enough talk about the times when they didn’t have two pennies to rub together and of course laugh about it.

If you worry more about the fact that your next partner might not have two pennies to rub together than whether he or she is kind, caring and loving, then your next relationship and the ones that follow will be a chain of disasters.

Try to think beyond the flat screen TV, a car that is less than two years old and all of the other rubbish that is so short term, if you want a relationship that lasts and will last forever then you have to think about things that won’t wear out like love, kindliness, caring and to be honest the things that make a relationship last.

So even if you are poor by others crazy standards you can walk off into the sunset together but it might not be a Caribbean one, but if you are both happy walking off into a Caribbean sunset would just be the icing on the Diamond Anniversary Cake wouldn’t it.

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In a world that recently has shown itself to be a place full of corruption, greed and stupidity it is important to remember that if you want to build a stable long term relationship with a partner you should do the opposite of American, Arab and European bankers and businessmen and be generous and honest.

Just look where greed, stupidity and corruption have got them? Nowhere yet like the children from a bad marriage it is us the poor people in the street that suffer because we bear the cost for the actions of the greedy idiots.

So it you want to have a relationship that lasts first try to be generous and kind yourself and then find someone who thinks the same. Both of you may not ever be the richest people in the world but you will be among a very select few who are the happiest.

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There is no need to be alone these days honestly. Believe it or not even today there are so many ways to find someone who could become your partner. One of the very best ways to find a special someone is to talk to people you see everyday.

Sadly our society has painted us into a corner because we are worried about ‘strangers’ and so we walk along the street with our heads down, sit on public transport avoiding eye contact with our fellow passengers and keep ourselves very much to ourselves and that I am afraid is a recipe for loneliness.

But that is daft because if we have a daily routine and that is probably 90% of us we encounter people everyday, nice people who are probably lonely as well and as painted into their corners as we are.

So surely it is really silly to sit at home alone when in your street let alone your town there are probably dozens of people doing the self same thing.

Tomorrow when you are walking down the street or you are on the bus or you are wherever your daily routine takes you and you see someone you have seen before smile at them, you’ll probably get a smile back.

Then the next day when you see them again do the same, after a week the person you are smiling at will probably be looking out for you so that they can smile back at you when you smile at them and that is because we humans are social animals and we enjoy contact with other members of or species.

The next step is to say hello, and soon after that maybe you will be stopping for a chat, this sort of sociable behaviour can be directed to both members of the opposite sex and to members of your own sex too and that is because you are just being socialble.

With men it is more likely to start chatting if they are at a football game or in a bar but the same logic of just chatting applies.

By chatting to members of the opposite sex you are increasing your chances of striking up a friendship or relationship and by talking to a members of the same sex you are simply widening your group of contacts.

Isn’t it true that almost all of us know someone who is on their own and it is likely that you will be introduced to them at some time down the line or be introducing someone to a friend of the person you now know who is alone.

The simple truth is that unless you talk to people and interact with them you will become more and more isolated and when you feel isolated and alone you don’t feel like talking to anyone and so you are caught in a cycle of unhappiness.

Don’t you agree that the price of getting rid of your unhappiness is worth a smile and then a hello? I do, but then I do talk to a lot of people when I am out.

After the first hello you can chat about anything, from the weather to the price of Sugar it doesn’t matter, the person you smiled at will know that you aren’t a threat and vice versa and at some stage they will feel comfortable enough to suggest a coffee or something.

So smile at someone tomorrow just for me! Because there is no reason for any of us to be alone and victims of the society we live in today and stay painted into a corner.

Here are three words to think about today when you are looking for Mr., Ms. or Mrs. right.

If you use those three rather simple words then you will find happiness. You know a friend of mine spent nearly 20 years looking for the right partner, in the end he found her but it took a while and of course he was patient.

It is easy to wrong almost before begin when you are building a relationship and that is usually because of ‘personalities.’

Sometimes it is because people carry emotional ‘baggage’ from one relationship to another and that baggage just gets heavier and heavier and drags you down, other times it is because you decide that this time ‘you’ are going be a different person and that is something we humans can’t do just like leopards we are unable to change our spots.

Other times we begin a relationship with the intention to change our partner, to my way of thinking if you want to change some of the characteristics or behaviour of your partner you may as well cut out the agony that you will both suffer and leave them well alone now.

But if you can leave the baggage behind, not be so arrogant to believe that you can ‘change’ someone then you have a real chance of building a relationship.

By far and away the best way to build a relationship is to take things at a pace that you are both happy with, always remember that a relationship contains two people and although you may want to move in together tomorrow your partner may have reservations and want time to adjust to his or her new situation.

Gardeners and builders know about getting the foundations right, if you want to grow wonderful flowers you prepare your soil well and if you want to build a house that will last for centuries you get the footing right and the same is true of building a relationship. The happier, more trusting and comfortable both of you are with each other the more solid the foundation for your future.

There are a lot of things to sort out before you move in together of course but you both need to sit down and work out what it is you want and then go for it.

Always remember that if you have a happy relationship you are one of the lucky few, not every couple can without thinking or referring to each other say that they are happy. But it you work at it you will always be building upon the firm foundations that you created originally and that means that when asked if you are happy together you will both say yes without even having to pause for a moment and that is wonderful.